Working mothers have a dilemma and a guilt feeling on that whether they are ignoring their children for the sake of career? Some mothers work for their career development and some work due to financial constraints. Whatever the case may be points go both for and against working mothers.
Points that go in favour of the working mothers:
Good news for working mothers is that they act as a role model for their children – a strong , confident and independent figure. Children look up to their mother as a figure who carries herself well and this gives them a good feeling about themselves and their mother. Children look up to be like their mothers as independent and growth oriented.
Children become independent from a very young age. With their mothers not around them all the time providing them the protective environment during growth years, children very soon learn to handle themselves well through the thick and thin of life. They try to handle the situations themselves and in the process get enough space for experimentation and learn their ways through trial and error method.
Children learn to organise themselves well.
Working mothers, being more in touch with the outside world know what’s going on in the world and are able to guide their children in much better way. As the children grow up, mothers being more open to new ideas and ideologies are able to connect with their children in a better way.
Working mothers feel good about themselves and this good feeling results in positivity in them. This positivity is passed onto children. A child is like a sponge who absorbs whatever is there around him.
Points that don’t go in favour of working mothers:
Children may not get the kind of care they deserve during their formative years. This depends upon the personality of the child as to how he takes all this- either he may open up and learn to lead his own life independently or he may move into a shell – making himself look like a victim who doesn’t get enough attention required. Some children may become insecure and may not be able to move up in life as the feeling of insecurity and loneliness may remain with them as they grow up.
Mothers may not able to ingrain the kind of value system they would have wanted to, into their children due to lack of time. Again this may be a subjective scenario and depends upon how well the mothers organise themselves. Spending quality time with the kids can resolve the above issue. Spending quality time over quantity time matters.
Working Mothers whose job is stressful, with the timelines to be met and long working hours could feel anxious about their children and this anxiety will be passed over time to children.
This debate can go on and on.
One last word – What kind of work or career one chooses defines a lot of things in one’s life.
I leave this debate for open discussion. Do participate in this debate. Children as well as parents can come forward for participation based on their individual experiences.