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Learn to take criticism- It helps you to evolve:


Mr. X: What happens when you are doing something with passion and dedication and someone comments that you are not doing it properly , there are lapses in your working style and you are required to undergo a training for improvement???

Mr. Y : Oh! I feel lot of pain and turmoil inside me. I feel I am putting in sincere effort from my side and this is the credit I get for my work. I feel terrible and as if all my reputation is at stake. I feel like retaliating or leaving the work what I was involved in.

Wait a second!!! If these are your thoughts wait for sometime. Calm down and introspect yourself. Real answers will start emerging. Sometimes we are so much involved with our fantasies and self image that it becomes difficult for us to see the hard core facts. We may not realise the work we are doing is not producing the desired results.

It depends upon us whether we thank the other person for pointing our drawbacks and take this as an opportunity to learn and improve ourselves or make it an ego issue. The choices we make in our lives have a lot of effect on our evolution and growth as a person and as a human being. When we stop taking criticism we stop evolving. This is the end of the road. We stop and we stagnate.

We may feel the pain inside us but yet the fact remains the same that people who criticise us work well for our growth. The criticism is just like bitter gourd juice which is unpalatable but yet good for our health.
So, we need to take decision for ourselves whether to eat the bitter medicine when we are ill and get cured or avoid the medicine and let disease be there , troubling us time and again.

Note: As parents we need to train our children to take criticism in good spirits and introspect and evolve.


Career – Self defence

Self defence is an area which holds great opportunities. With ever increasing rates of violence and crimes especially against women and older people and so much media focus on these crimes,this is the right time to look into an opportunity in this field. All the negative news coming in can be looked into as opportunity in disguise.

Tasks involved in self defence training may include:

Handling of psychological part. Activities involved may include improving on self confidence, making people proactive etc.
Herein, you may have to deal with common myths and stereotypes such as women are made to think and believe that they are weak and require a male member for their security.
The outcome expected from psychological part of training is that people should be able to believe that they are capable enough to defend themselves.

Providing physical training such as martial arts etc.

Outcome expected from this part of training is that clients become capable enough with the hard skills involved in self defence.

Creation of hypothetical and mock drills to deal with unpleasant situations and training the clients to handle them effectively. This can be simulated on the same pattern as military and police training drills.
Outcome expected from this part of training is that clients have an hand-on experience to deal with unpleasant experiences.

Making clients aware of preventive measures that need to be taken. This can be based on interaction and data collection from live experiences of people.
Objective to be met with this part of activity is to make clients aware that “Prevention is always better than cure.”

Where to look for opportunities:

• You can tie up with educational institutions to impart training in self defence.
• You can run your own self defence training institute.
• You can reach out to organisations such as banks, hospitals, multinationals etc, especially areas wherein women need to work at odd hours and offer to train professionals for self defence.
• You can tie up with associations in closed communities such as apartment complexes etc. wherein self defence training can be provided to all age groups . Here customised training packages can be provided for different age groups.

Who can look into taking up opportunity in this field:

• If you have entrepreneurial skills.
• If you yearn to start something of your own.
• If you can either pool trainers and showcase your management skills or are yourself trained in self defence and psychology.
Note: You are always at benefit if you are well-versed with the skills required as it cuts dependency on others for skill. Well trained martial art trainer can find a lot of new opportunities emerging for him.
• You need to have risk taking ability.

A piece of advice:

In this field you will be better off if you start on your own.


Find a mentor in your life – A viewpoint


Finding a mentor is very important in Life.

Mentor in todays world is same as what we called a MASTER in ancient world.

Mentor is like a propeller in a rocket, as an engine in a train. He is a person who has the capability of looking into the gifts you have with you , the capabilities you have with you and guides your capabilities in right direction. He is a person who has the capability of taking the best out of you and holding you when you fall.

Once you find a right mentor in your life nearly half of your journey on the path of your dreams is achieved.

First Step:

Recognise the area where you require mentoring:
It is very important for you to first recognise the areas where you require mentoring. Probable areas could be

• Life Skills
• Sports
• Studies
• Setting up Business
• Skill Development

Second Step:

Qualities to look for in a mentor:
• He works with sincerity for the cause.
• He is passionate about what he is doing.
• He is ready to put in hard work.
• He may be meeting personal objectives but not at the cost of sacrificing you.
• He is capable of bringing the best out of you.
• He is capable of stopping you when you start wandering away from your goals and path.
• He is capable of providing mentoring in area you require i.e. he has the requisite knowledge of that field.

Third Step:

Finding a mentor:
Mentor can be
• Any one in your close circle (your friends, your relatives, your seniors, your acquaintances).
• Any one who is professional or who is practically working or doing really something good in the field you require mentoring in, so that he can guide you by practical experiences rather than bookish knowledge.
• Mentor can be anyone who wanted to do something great in his life in that particular field where you want mentoring and has not achieved the heights he wanted to, but has that fire inside him to produce somebody great in that field with his experiences.
Note:People who had fire inside them along with the knowledge to do something but have somehow not achieved what they wanted in that particular field ,can take you places because that fire is still alive inside them. You need to have an eagle’s eye to spot such mentors.
• You can look for mentors in the organisation you work for, in the educational institutions you study.
• For business purpose – you can enrol yourself into forums of business people. There you may find people, who have achieved in life and are now coming forward to share their knowledge and experience. It is often seen that people who have achieved in their life and have risen in their life are more than willing to share their experiences. Such people can act as best mentors.

As parents it is very important to connect our children to best people and find a mentor for them.


Success Story – Chris Rogers


Chris Rogers , an Australian cricketer, has made his maiden Test Century in fourth Ashes match against England to become the second oldest Australian to score maiden Test Century.

This is a story of perseverance and overcoming personal short comings. Chris Rogers suffers from short sightedness and colour blindness. Inspite of the physical constraints put to him by nature he was able to pursue his dream. It took a little too long for him to achieve but he did make it at the age of 36 years. He has become an epitome of hardwork and perseverance.


A little of his background in international debut:

Rogers is a left- handed opening batsman and a right handed leg-breaker bowler of Australia.
In May 2007 he was awarded his first national contract with Cricket Australia. In 2008 he played in the test series -Australia versus India. But, didn’t perform well. He was able to scored only four runs in his first innings of 212 and 15 runs in the second innings. As an aftermath of this his national contract was terminated. After more than five years of long wait since he played his first and only test match for Australia his name appeared in the team of sixteen players selected for Australian Test squad for the 2013 Ashes tour.

What happened after this is known to one and all .

What Chris Rogers had to say when he was selected?

“They see me as someone who can come in and offer something different with all that experience.”
“When the call came through I was absolutely delighted, but at the same time I knew there was a long way to go.”
Rogers conceded he “got a bit down” when selectors continually overlooked him after his one Test.
“When there were 50-50 calls and I missed out, and it seemed the selectors were going in a different direction, I mentioned to a few people I didn’t think I’d ever get a go,” he said.
“A lot of people said to never give up hope, and here I am. It’s pleasing to get one more chance.”

What selection chairman John Inverarity had to tell about Chris Rigers on his selection?

Rogers has scored almost 20,000 first-class runs, with nearly 10,000 made on English pitches, and selection chairman John Inverarity told him he had something unique to offer.

What Chris Rogers had to say after scoring his maiden Test Century?
“I wanted to believe I was good enough but never knew. To get a hundred that’s something that no one can take away from me.”

“It was emotional out there…It was my day today. There were so many things that went my way. You’ve just got to make the most of it and fortunately I did.”

• Physical constraints can be overcome by will power and determination to succeed.
• What matters is perseverance to do something!
• Take failures as the stepping stones and use tough experiences for ones own betterment.
Consider failures as opportunities to work on ones shortcomings and drawbacks.

Hats off to Chris Rogers!!!

Hats off to all people like him who dare to dream inspite of their physical constraints and failures!!!

Hats off to people who dare to pursue their dreams with perseverance!!!


Success Story-Yuvaraj Singh


Yuvaraj Singh, the famous Indian Cricketer, was detected with the life threatening disease CANCER. It came as a shock to him as well as his fans all over. But, he soon composed himself and stood up to fight the deadly disease with great inner strength.

After fighting and overcoming his death, he is seen back into action. He dreams to be back into the Indian Cricket team and is seen sweating and working harder to get his place back. Meanwhile, he has authored the book “The Test of My Life: From Cricket to Cancer and Back “(Random House India, co-authored by Sharda Ugra and Nishant Jeet Arora) which acts as inspiration for millions who are faced by challenges in their lives and dare to take a leap forward inspite of situations going against them.


People who see death so closely know the real value of LIFE. Most of the time we take LIFE for granted and are not aware of what great treasure we have with us, what a great thing it is to lead a NORMAL LIFE. He now claims to be a changed person who values life more than before.

Hats off to Yuvaraj Singh!!!
Hats off to people like him who fight back for life with never giving up attitude and dare to start afresh with renewed vigour!!!


Self Expression is important for personal well being


Each one of us needs to find a way to express himself. Expressing ourselves has a lot to do with our overall well being.

Pent up feelings and unexpressed thoughts start becoming blockages in the path of our progress as well as our mental peace. When we are not able to express ourselves, we feel suffocated .We need to find ways in which we can express ourselves in a meaningful and positive manner. Outlet is very much required for our feelings and thoughts. Once we express ourselves we are at peace with ourselves and we feel very light within .This opens path for optimum use of our capabilities.

Expressing ourselves is as important for our living and leading a peaceful life as food is for our body, as sunlight is for plants, as air is for life.

Some of the Common Reasons for not expressing ourselves:
• Lack of Self Confidence
• Shyness
• Fear of non acceptance by others
• Circumstances don’t allow
• Lack of communications skills or lack of proper means of communication

Whatever be the case, we can always train ourselves to express ourselves in a positive and meaningful manner.

Various Ways of Self Expression that can be looked into are:
• Art and creativity is a good way to express ourselves. Great painters, sculptors and designers over time have been able to express their thought process through their art work. Whatever you feel can be put in the form of art.
• Writing is a very powerful tool of self expression. Writing is strongly recommended as a way to put your thoughts and feelings in words. Writing should become a habit for us. We can maintain a personal dairy where in we can write whatever we feel about.
• Dance is also a way of self expression. You can always express yourself through the form of dance.
• Singing is another way of self expression.
• Talk yourself out.
• Teaching can also be considered as a way to express yourself.


-> As parents you may look into helping your children in finding ways to express themselves.
->As a grown up you may yourself look into ways you can express yourself meaningfully.



Meditation in Motion- Part 3


Dance is another form of meditation in motion. While dancing you invoke the life force that is flowing through you. Dance is method of bringing inner stillness while moving.

Meditation means emptying of mind and entering a void space where our soul surfaces, bringing peace .In dancing we enter this meditative state or trans-state of mind but through rather a different door.

Dances were from days of yore associated with spirituality. They have the ability to take us to trans-state of mind if performed with focus on mental discipline along with physical movements. With practising of steps and movements dancers slowly move towards the fine balancing and grounding techniques. Dancing done with intention of attaining spirituality do lead us to meditative state. Thus, intention setting is very important step before one starts dancing.

•Sufi dance is well recommended dance for meditation. Whirling around takes you to a different plane of consciousness and makes it very easy for you to connect to higher self. Whirling can be associated with spinning of planets around the sun.

•Kathak Yoga is a new technique developed for mediation purpose.

•Qi Gong Fan dance is another form of meditative dance.

•Hoop dance is also now being used for meditative purposes as well.



Bhag Milkha Bhag (meaning Run Milkha Run) – Movie Review

Bhag Milkha Bhag

It is a movie inspired by the life of Milkha Singh . Milkha Singh is a veteran Indian athelete. Milkha Singh has won several medals for India in events such as Asian games, Olympics etc. He was given the title of ‘Flying Sikh’ by Pakistan’s then president Ayub Khan after winning an athletic event held there.

It is a movie of racing ones dreams and fulfilling them with determination. Milkha Singh’s life was full of hardships and struggle. Inspite of all this he struggled to fulfil his dreams and reached to the top.


Farhan Akhtar (Milkha Singh), Sonam Kapoor, Prakash Raj, Rebecca Breeds, Meesha Shafi, Divya Dutta.

Produced and Directed By:

Rakeysh Omprakash Mehra.


• Inspires one to chase ones dreams
• Inspires one to move ahead inspite of all the challenges posed by life
• Journey to the top is lonely and is full of sacrifices

Violence: Few violence scenes are there
Can watch with family: Yes
Intimacy scenes: Yes
Objectionable scenes: Adult intimacy is there
Suitable for age groups: All age groups
Family Values: *****
Language: Hindi, Punjabi(occasionally),English(occasionally)
Ratings on motivational part: *****

Ratings :
***** Excellent
**** Good
*** Average
** Ok-Ok