Category Archives: VIEW POINT

21Jul/14

Multitasking versus Focussed Working:

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At the very start of this discussion one thing that needs to be clear is that most of the times we use multitasking for very short duration of time but, for the purpose of this discussion the time frame has been increased and it’s used as a representation for trying to do multiple things . Keeping this in mind let us start the discussion.

Views in favour of multitasking

Now a days , we get involved with a lot of varied fields. It is good that we expose Continue reading

02May/14
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TRUST YOUR CHILDREN


Trusting our children helps . We need to have faith in our children.

It is said that when we trust our children an additional responsibility of doing right action comes on their shoulders.When we trust our children we place positive thoughts in their sub conscious minds – THE THOUGHTS OF FAITH , THE THOUGHTS OF RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOUR. Continue reading

04Nov/13

Pushing Oneself Beyond One’s Limits is the Key to Success

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We need to learn to push ourselves beyond the limits imposed on us by our own selves. When we decide to limit ourselves and set boundaries for ourselves on what we can do and what we can’t do, we are the people who limit our success. Our mental barriers decide the boundaries for our progress and growth.

Wherever we have set limits for ourselves we need to go and challenge our limits, it is only then can we proceed and succeed in our lives.

Whenever such words come into our dictionary that this is an impossible task for me, I cannot do it – just go ahead and take up a challenge to do it with determination.

Our limits, Our Fears, Our Phobias won’t go unless we decide to get face to face with them and overcome them with determination. Let us start the journey of overcoming our limits by doing small things in our everyday lives .These small things may include moving into darkness if we think we cannot do it, it could be public speaking if we think we can not do it , it could be travelling alone if we think we cannot travel alone etc.

The key is to push ourselves out of our comfort zones and face new challenges till it becomes our habit to face each challenge in our lives fearlessly and take it as an adventure.

Let our lives be like an experience of taking part in adventure sports may be a rope walk or paragliding or any other thing wherein we experience the unknown without fear and push ourselves out of our comfort zones.

Note: As parents we need to constantly encourage our children to push past their limits. As an example, if your child does daily three rounds of running in a ground and says he can not do more than this, push him to do one more round and make him realise that it was possible for him to do one more extra round of running.

23Sep/13

Working Mothers


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Working mothers have a dilemma and a guilt feeling on that whether they are ignoring their children for the sake of career? Some mothers work for their career development and some work due to financial constraints. Whatever the case be points go both for and against working mothers.

Points in favour – for the working mothers:

Good news for working mothers is that they act as a role model for their children – a strong , confident and independent figure. Children look up to their mother as a figure who carries herself well and it gives them good feeling about themselves and their mother. Children look up to be like their mothers –independent and growth oriented.

Children become independent from a very young age. With their mothers not around them all the time providing them the protective environment for growth, children very soon learn to handle themselves well through the thick and thin of life. They go about handling situations themselves and in the process get enough space for experimentation and learn their ways through hard way of trial and error.

Children learn to organise themselves well.

Working mothers, being more in touch with the outside world know what’s going on in the world and are able to guide their children in much better way. As the children grow up, mothers being more open to new ideas and ideologies are able to connect with their children better at the mental plane.

Working mothers feel better of themselves and this good feeling about themselves makes them feel positive. This positivity is passed onto children. A child is like a sponge who absorbs whatever is there around him.

Points that don’t go in favour of working mothers:

Children may not get the kind of care they deserve during their formative years. This depends upon the personality of the child as to how he takes all this- either he may open up and learn to lead his own life independently or he may move into a shell – making himself look like a victim who doesn’t get enough attention required. Some children may become insecure and may not be able to move up in life as the feeling of insecurity and lonliness may remain with them as they grow up.

Mothers may not able to ingrain the kind of value system they would have wanted to, into their children due to lack of time. Again this may be a subjective scenario and depends upon how well the mothers organise themselves. Spending quality time with the kids can resolve the above issue. Spending quality time over quantity time matters.

Working Mothers whose job is stressful, with the timelines to be met and long working hours could feel anxious about their children and this anxiety will be passed over time to children.

This debate can go on and on.

One last word – What kind of work or career one chooses defines a lot of things in one’s life.

I leave this debate for open discussion. Do participate in this debate. Children as well as parents can come forward for participation based on their individual experiences.